You can tell me anything! NO, No- NOT THAT!!!
by pinkagendist
What the hell?!? When I say ‘you can tell me anything’, I mean you can tell me you’ve overspent when you bought a Chanel bag. You served cava in champagne bottles. You bought a fake something in China-town. When your husband/wife was asleep you pinched them or covered their mouth and nose for a second so they couldn’t breathe. You flicked your child’s ear- I don’t know. But do NOT- Not, tell your husband/wife’s friend you’re having an affair. That is soooooooooo not on. Totally, not on. It puts me in the most horrid of positions.
My advice was entirely bourgeois. “Get your act together. Behave. There’s no such thing as perfect. I promise you that great sex whilst living under a bridge is not as fun in real life as it is in your mind.”- aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I hate this. Why the !”··$%& do I ever leave the house???
I overspend when I buy a Radley bag. Oh well. No, they should not have told you that. Not even if they think of you as their friend as well as the spouse’s. It requires you either to intervene in your friend’s marriage, or keep a secret from your friend, both of which are ghastly choices. Or avoid your friend completely.
And you go out because it is interesting outside the house, however sensitive you are. So I tell myself, anyway.
He/she called in tears talking about divorce- I told the truth. Vile situation.
P.S. you made me look up Radley as I wasn’t quite up on its existence
They seem to be 50% off at the moment 
Ugh. Nasty. Truly nasty. And so bloody selfish. I think you may now know ‘why’ he/she is having an affair. I’m old fashioned enough to believe in serial monogamy even if ‘death do you part’ no longer applies. I guess this is a case of humanity showing its soiled petticoat. Gawd, does anyone still know what a petticoat is? I’m a dinosaur. I shall now shut up.
The manure is currently heading in the fan’s direction. In the next few days we shall know more. I’ve offered my support to the wounded party…
Be sure to wear a raincoat and carry an umbrella at all times.
Sweetie, it seems to me you’re overreacting. I’ll listen to anything and I love to, as long as the other person listens to me as well, otherwise all bets are off.
Who cares if someone is having an affair? I don’t. I may not agree with it, but anyone has the right to make their own choices in life and live with the consequences.
So be a doll and take it easy on yourself, you’re taking on more pressure form the outside than you need to.
Hugs
Ack! That’s terrible. Never tell a mutual friend or friend of your SO that you’re cheating! That’s a bit like confessing a murder to your best friend who happens to be a homicide detective. AWK. WARD.
Sorry you were put in that position.
BTW I’m neither a cheater or murderer. Just to be clear on that.
Ah well, you know full well that someone who wants to share the drama like that would come knocking on your door or ring you up to tell you their sob story. Unfortunately staying hidden at home won’t help you, mores the pity.
Sorry for your friend, and sorry for you. I too believe that you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Someone told you a secret, you can keep a secret, right? Yes, hence the pressure. I feel for you and hope things even out soon.
Affairs are ugly messy things and should be avoided at all costs, and if you do cheat, learn to lie.
Yeah, statistics say that the actual sex in an affair is not as good as it is with the spouse, but then, an affair is never really about the sex, is it?
I’m sorry for the position you’re in. I’ve had married people complain to me about their spouses before, sometimes both parties in the couple, and it always makes me want to crawl out of my skin and into another room.
I hate it when my gfs talk endless trash about their men to me. All they say are bad things, how he insults them, cheats on them, how cheap he is, etc.
Then you end up having to be around the jerk at her parties, or whatever, and you can’t stand him and think he’s an ass—but she loves him.
You become the enemy when you ask her, “But what do you see in him?”